A newborn and a single parent who cannot walk.The parent cannot fetch things. Cannot reach. Cannot move through the house the way a parent is supposed to.The child grows. Starts crawling. Then walking.
Watch what happens next.

This phenomenon raises the question: why children sacrifice their mental health for parents?

Nobody trains the child. Nobody explains the situation. The child just starts doing the things the parent cannot do.
Now think about a parent who cannot regulate anger. Who cannot sit with silence. Who collapses under pressure or explodes under it. The child is watching that too.
And the child’s nervous system does the same calculation. It starts compensating. Quietly. Automatically. The way a body compensates for an injury without asking permission.
The child does not know they are paying a price.
That is the part worth sitting with. – Ravinder Khurana